taken this frm celestine de blog..find it ver meaningful..
The fundamentals of love.
Think back to the day when you first laid eyes on her. You found yourself charmed by the way she talks, the way she dresses herself to show off her best features and if a mysterious "chemistry effect" has suddenly developed to draw you closer to her. You two then began to meet regularly, and you discover more thingsthat you admire about her. Her clever ideas, her healthy values and the way she stands up for you when others doubt you. You find yourself thinking ofher not just as a normal friend, but a very good friend. It is often during this period that a boy and a gal will start thinking of bringing their friendship to another level. After all, the kind of wonderful experience you have between each other can only become even better if it develops into a romantic relationship. In other words, the feeling is really unique no one else seems able to replace her in your heart.So both of you agree to go steady and work even harder on the relationship. You "graduate" to become a couple, and are the envy of the sea ofsingles.
When You Forget The Fundamentals
However, at some point in your relationship,you forgot how it all began.You start to take your partner for granted. Why can't she laugh in amore ladylike manner? Why doesn't she dress herself more trendily? Why must she assert her views and point out your silly mistakes? Is she really the one for you? To be fair to yourself and to her, take some time to reflect on your love: memory. The 'love memory' contains all the reasons that you fell inlove with her right from Day One. It containsrarely accessed snippets of how your life has changed since meeting and loving her. Pre-steady days, did you heap compliments on her for the brave way she spoke her mind on bullies and snobs? Youprobably did. Did you likeher unusual fashion sense that makes her stand out from the crowd? Right-o. So why are you criticising or finding fault with her now that she is your girlfriend?
Because you have forgotten the fundamentals of love, like so many of us You have forgotten the reasons you admired her during the friendship phase.Instead, once you went steady, you put your "love memory" in cold storage. As her boyfriend, you take up a new set of demands and expectationsabout her. These new ideas are not necessarily better; they could put your relationship at risk.
The Secret Of Strong Relationships
A healthy relationship, like learning to walk properly, follows a step-by-step development. You can't possibly become part of a couple if you aren't friends in the first place. Ok, I know some of us break the rule and plunge straight into whirlwind courtship, but how many of those couples can go the distance? Couplehood works well when there is something you like about her (and vice versa), and I'm not referring to merely the physical aspects.So whenever your relationship hits a rocky path, don't give up without checking on your "love memory". Rediscover the reasons why you fell in love with her, and watch your relationship flourish with a newfound vigour.
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L-Listen O-Overlook V-Voice E-Effort
Love is to listen to the needs of the other party: giving without asking for returns, overlook the faults and find the plus point of the other party, voice out & say sweet things and express your happiness and words of encouragement for the other party, putting in effort, keep putting in more time to find the world of love.
haix..last night..cry like siao..cried when i did my hmwrk..mom came into my room..asked me wad happened..told her everything ar..den she said she knew i had a bf long ago..just dat she din't say..me tio shock sia..haiss..nvrm..was still damn upset..den she tell me to forget him..say me still young..remind me of biao jie and her ex..tell me to concentrate on my studies..den she ask me delete his msg-es..and his phone number..tell me don sms him anymore..but i nvr delete..i can't bear to..nvrm if i delete it..cos i remember his no. by heart lers..
dat time already xia ding jue xin to ferget him..but still cannot arhs..bu zhi dao wei she me..den yesterdae played with cedar..41-45..lost seh..den me..also damn sad..cos i nvr play..den me stupid sia go sms him..thinking he will comfort me or wad..but he bo chap..sadded..bu dong la..bu yao zai jiang ta lers..
was reading joshua..richard..lik khain..celestine..rachel..mei ling de blorgs..now i noe..gort others like me..wei gan qing de shi er fan nao~haiss..tml gort training..den friday playing against st.magaret..i don really feel like going..or even playing..cos i'm lousy~duno why coach choose me in the first place..mayb i shld go sprain my ankle or sumthing..den let others play..haiss..
feeling: sadded
listening to: nth~
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